By: Jackie Hill

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 is 1 of my FAVORITE scriptures! Paul asked GOD to REMOVE the thorn in his side...He asked GOD to HEAL him three times..."But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

What about your THORN! It could be Sickness, Brokenness, Persecution, Affliction, Loss etc. It was God’s will that Paul be made perfect through suffering persecutions. General suffering is discomfort that everyone goes through. Understand that you will experience many "Thorns" in this walk with GOD for HIS sake!

GOD said my GRACE is SUFFICIENT for you... "Sufficient" : adequate for the purpose; ENOUGH...His power is made PERFECT in YOUR weakness! Paul said well, I will boast (to be proud in the possession of his weaknesses) In Insults, hardships, persecutions in ALL his difficulties!

Understand that GOD will get the GLORY in the end of it all...In order for him to be seen, You MUST DECREASE so that he my INCREASE!(John 3:30) Your pain is not in VAIN and it is not about YOU! We over come by our testimonies right? GOD will not remove that "Thorn"...The power relies (to depend confidently; put trust in) in HIM, not US!


My "Thorns" HURT...BADLY...But it's not in VAIN! Do not isolate yourself when you start to feel the PAIN of your "Thorns"...I AM HERE 4 YOU...GOD IS AVAILABLE! He doesn't SLEEP nor SLUMBER!

We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)

-You have to broken in order to be made WHOLE....
-You have to be empty in order for him to fill you up....


-Aundrea

This song had me in TEARS! You ARE what the LORD sees! He sees the Phrophecy & the promises! HAVE FAITH!

Come experience a genuine worship encounter that will transform your mind, restore your spirit and motivate you to walk in your purpose with minister Farrah Martin from New Orleans!

Beautiful Victory Inc. "Be you to the full" conference 2010

This beautiful ministry will be coming to St. Louis FEB. 12th- 13th 2010
Address: 12031 Lackland Road St. Louis, Mo, 63146

Join the EVE ladies as we experience GOD on a new level! We are walking in VICTORY...Beautiful Victory!

For more information or to bring to this ministry to your area, email beautiful_victory@hotmail.com



Minister Farrah Martin

The Teleios Project & National Pan-Hellenic Council INC. of St. Louis PRESENTS: The 2010 Black HIV/AIDS Awareness day conference. "HIV/AIDS Prevention: A choice & a lifestyle"

January 30th, 2010 @ UMSL (JCPenny Conference Center)
Address: One University Boulevard St. Louis, Mo 63121

8am till 6pm
Free admission, Door prizes, free breakfast/lunch and a Non-Greek step show exhibit!

REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED (For meals during the conference)
To register, call (314) 361-7111 OR VISIT www.teleiosproject.org

Come help volunteer with the ladies of EVE! If you would like too, please email us at EVEOrganization@hotmail.com

Hello world, our blog site is BACK! Here are a few pictures of the Ladies of "EVE" out and about...Enjoy!

"E.V.E" was featured on "STL Gospel Show" If you missed it...Here it is right here! Enjoy...

I want to share a very special passage with you. It is Psalms 91. I remember when I lived in a certain house and there was a furnace room, exactly like the picture below...but it was just a little bit bigger and when the furnace came on, it made a very loud noise. It was dark and cold, it had spider webs and ALL... It was not a comfortable place to, especially to Dwell (reside) in for hours at a time. But, I called it my "Prayer Closet"....it was my "Secret Place"!


This is where I would go and talk to JESUS, I would spend time with him in this room. I laid down a blanket in the area that was free and that is where I would pray. He spoke to me and I shared EVERYTHING with him in my 'Secret Place'...

Psalms 91: 1-16

-He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.

-I will say [1] to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”

-For he will deliver you from the snare(Trap) of the fowler
and from the deadly pestilence.

-He will cover you with his pinions(The wing of a bird),
and under his wings you will find refuge(Protection or shelter);
his faithfulness is a shield and buckler(a defense).

-You will not fear the terror of the night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,

- nor the pestilence that stalks in darkness,
nor the destruction that wastes at noonday.

-A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.

-You will only look with your eyes
and see the recompense of the wicked.

-Because you have made the Lord your dwelling place—
the Most High, who is my refuge

-no evil shall be allowed to befall you,
no plague come near your tent.

-For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways.

-On their hands they will bear you up,
lest you strike your foot against a stone.

-You will tread on the lion and the adder;
the young lion and the serpent you will trample underfoot.

-“Because he holds fast to me in love, I will deliver him;
I will protect him, because he knows my name.

-When he calls to me, I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble;
I will rescue him and honor him.

-With long life I will satisfy him
and show him my salvation.”



You are in the SAFETY of the LORD...he will HIDE from the Enemy and No Evil or harm will be done to you! He LOVES you...

-Aundrea C. Smith

"Bring Down the Walls"
Poem By Jackie Hill

Jackie says:
This is a poem that I wrote recently. Many people have walls around their hearts that are similar to the walls of Jericho. The walls may have been built from years of pain, low self esteem, molestation, rape, absence of a parent, etc...but this poem is to encourage all who are tagged that whatever wall is keeping you from your victory can be demolished if you have FAITH in God. NOTHING IS TOO HARD FOR HIM! (Luke 1:37)

"By FAITH the walls of Jericho fell, after the people had marched around them for seven days." HEBREWS 11:30


Bring down the walls!
It may sound as if im speaking about the walls of Jericho
But no, im speaking to the bricks built around your heart from years ago
Brick upon brick being built from words being spilt from slick lips
Calling you skinny cuz ya hips aint thick or telling you ya fat
Because God’s image of you don’t exist to them
Thin sips of sin sinking in due to your desire to please your friends instead of Him
You don’t wanna feel neglected not knowing that you’re wearing a suicidal necklace
Suffocating yourself slowly cuz ya dying for human acceptance.
Brick upon brick being built cuz ya never felt loved
M&M hard exterior, tryna front like that little child inside ain't still craving for a chocolate hug
Even though God loves you, the enemy tells you otherwise
He had u open up your heart by letting many men come inside
Relationship after relationship, that void never filled, still searching for father figures
Feeling filled from lustful thrills and giving man that spot that was made for only God to fill
Every man that ran had a brick in their hand, laying brick upon brick around your heart
Cuz that’s the enemies plan. Now you gotta wall of distrust
Every person that comes along got ya eyebrow raising up
God is saying, “Only if you trusted me, you wouldn’t need a wall to cover you up”
Brick upon brick being built around that suppressed little boy inside
From voices telling you ,”Stop acting like a punk, only gay boys cry.”
Now you cant show your emotions, keeping them bottled up inside
Now those bricks in your past have stacked up into a wall of pride
God gives grace to the humble and He opposes the proud
That thick wall that you thought protected you is messing with your eternity now
Brick upon brick being built from broken promises
Waiting on daddy to come home. That part of you still longing for the man that helped ya Mama make you. Ya mind thinking he hates you
Brick upon brick for every plan visit missed, aint seen him in years like you aint even his kid
Brick upon brick because ya heart got dissed.
Didn’t have a daddy so you looked for it in idols
Sex, drugs, & money may gratify the flesh but it will never satisfy you
God say’s “ I am all knowing, I knew what was gon’ happen.
When you said yes to me, there was a spiritual transaction
I went to the cross, yelled it is finished, I bled & died for that heart to be replenished
You trusting man more than the man that died for sinners
That’s whats keeping that wall from being permenatly diminished
On the 7th day, the Israelites got up & marched around the city.
Plenty thoughts running thru their heads like,”God, how long will I have to be behind this wall”
God’s saying,”Be still & know that I am sovereign over all
The things that they did to you when you were young, I allowed it to happen cuz I knew
One day salvation would come & many would come when they heard the testimony spoken
From you tongue
Stop thinking about how you may b judged when you’re transparent, & just focus on my son
The 7th time around, the trumpet blast & Joshua said, SHOUT 4 THE LORD HAS GIVEN U THE
CITY!
Trust in the king of kings and He will hand over your victory
The people gave a loud shout & the wall came falling down!
God says “If you trust in me, I can do the same thing to your walls now!!


-Jackie Minsta Hill

It is not about HIGH self-Esteem, it’s about
GOD-ESTEEM!

"But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a
people Belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him
who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light."
1 Peter 2:9 NIV


• You are a child of God (John 1:12)
• You are the light of the world (Matthew 5:14)
• You are a disciple because you have a love for others (John 13:34-35)
• You are a protected by the power of His name (John 17:11)
• You are set free by the truth (John 8:31-33)
• You are eternally secure in Christ (John 10:27-31)
• You are kept from the evil one (John 10:15)
• You are one with God the Father and Jesus the Son (John 17:23)
• You have been justified by faith (Romans 5:1)
• You can rejoice in trouble (Romans 5:3)
• You have been reconciled to God through the death of Jesus (Romans 5:10)
• You are free from the vicious cycle of sin and death (Romans 8:2)
• You can be confident that all things work together for good (Romans 8:23)
• You are inseparable from the love of God (Romans 8:35)
• You are more than a conqueror through Christ (Romans 8:37)
• You are God’s temple (I Corinthians 3:16-17)
• You have been bought with a price (I Corinthians 6:11)
• You are a new creation in Christ (II Corinthians 5:17)
• God is strong when you are weak (II Corinthians 12:10)
• You are blessed with every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1:3)
• You are forgiven of all your sins (Ephesians 1:7)
• You once were in darkness, but now you are in the light of the Lord (Ephesians 5:8)
• You are God’s handiwork created in Christ Jesus for good works (Ephesians 2:10)


Self-Esteem is exactly what it is...SELF-esteem....So many things in this world has an impact on how WE look at ourselves, so OUR views change constantly causing our self esteem to go UP & DOWN! But, take a look at yourself through GOD'S view....You will praise the LORD just like David did... "I Praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful..." (Psalms 139:14)

See yourself the way that GOD see's you...
-Aundrea C. Smith

Hello world,
I was just sitting here listening to 1 of my favorite songs called "Give it to you" by Meaghan Williams.... I can remember exactly what I was going through when I first heard her CD called "Bless you God"!Her songs encouraged me sooo much! She is a phenomenal Gospel Artist! I have seen her perform before and it was AMAZING! She is definitely an anointed woman of GOD!

I have decided to put her on her to show her that we truly appreciate her!
Booking Info:
618-610-6854
yolondi@yahoo.com

www.
metoomusic.com/meaghan







I have uploaded the video of her performing 'Give it to you' at HOPE church...Enjoy:)

This is me speaking about "Everlasting Victory Everyday" at the "Body Light Club"! Lord knows I was nervous...but he helped me, in every way! Check it out Guys... :)

You are not forgotten....GOD knows your name! The LORD is Light over darkness, Strength over weakness, Joy over sadness, Father to the fatherless, Friend to the friendless & Hope for the Hopeless! He knows our names...

Do you feel alone & Empty? Did you know you're not the only one?
You're looking for a relationship but you just can't seem to find it. At times you feel you've found it but the feeling never seems to last. It seems every relationship leaves you with an unexplainable emptiness. Something is missing, but it doesn't ever have to be that way for you again.


One day Jesus met a woman at a well. She too was thirsting for love and fulfillment. He told her that she had been married several times and that the man she was living with wasn't her husband. He then told her that he was the living water & that she would thirst no more. HER SEARCH WAS OVER! My Search was OVER!!!! I have finally found the LOVE I always desired. GOD is the ONLY one that can give you this unconditional LOVE Ladies!

A love relationship with God is the most important relationship that anyone can have in life. and it happens through prayer. Talking to and listening to God.

There is One who loves you as His child and wants you to enjoy a relationship with Him. His name is Jesus. He is the answer to your search for that ultimate relationship. He will fill the hole in your heart, help you overcome your loneliness and your faults. He will give you peace here and now, and eternal life with Him in Heaven. He is the one Creator of the universe and all it contains, including you. You won't be complete inside until you have a personal relationship with the God who created you! YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN....he knows you personally...

"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."Deuteronomy 31:6

Many people will GIVE UP on you and walk out...trust me, I know. But Jesus, he made a promise...that he never would leave us! He LOVES us! We are not forgotten...


Aundrea C. Smith

"But now O Lord, thou art our father; we are the clay and you are the potter, and we are all work of your hand..." Isaiah 64:8

An angelic host encircled the creator & watched with fascination as he caressed Adam's rib in his hands. The almighty lovingly trailed his finger along the smooth surface, then smiled as he set about sculpting the beautiful creature he had already fashioned in his mind. The angel's sang softly as he SHAPED, stretched, MOLDED and then connected bone upon bone to weave a lovely form. He had finished and designed an intricate network of all things vital to life and covered it with a smooth fabric of skin....

THE CONVERSATION BEGAN...

ANGEL: She is smaller and more delicate than the man...
GOD: yes, but I have knit into her undeniable strength...
ANGEL: and she is much softer...her body, her hair...
GOD: the softness is part of the fascination...
ANGEL: her body also dents in & out...
GOD: I call these...curves...They are part of her softness...
ANGEL: her body flow's, so UN-like the man's...
GOD: the 2 are designed differently so they might fit together as ONE...
ANGEL: can she feel?
GOD: Oh yes! She feels deeply, joy, sorrow and her heart is tender...
ANGEL: really?
GOD: pleasure awaits her, hidden deep withing, beneath the soft folds. Yet, all of her delicate skin responds to touch...
ANGEL: LORD, you have out done yourself with this creation. She is a work of art...
GOD: Yes, but she is also a gift.....She is my MASTERPIECE!

Today, I ALMOST GAVE UP...On everything, all of this! I wanted to leave this to someone who is better than me, who has it all together....who has not made the mistakes I've made, who has tons of friends and supporters....But right when I began to cry...the LORD reminded me: "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."

It seems as if I am reminded of my PAST daily. All of the mistakes I have made, all of the people who have WALKED OUT on me... basically ALL of the things I CANNOT CHANGE! I just sometime's wonder....GOD? Why didn't you give "EVE" to somebody who isn't all jacked up? Why me? People are going to think "Aundrea?? PLEASE!!" and laugh at me!! LORD...Help!



Why GOD chooses the Wounded and Broken....

“God chooses others, just not me. I am the rejected child. God’s approval is beyond my wildest dreams.”

You think it’s because of your secret, don’t you? That awful thing in your past.... That abortion, That affair, Your divorce, Sexual promiscuity, The shameful things you have done behind people's backs, Addictions, Your eating disorder, Chronic depression, The lies.... etc.

It’s not! I know for two reasons:

1. Jesus said, “You did not choose me, but I chose you…” (John 15:16a)

2. I am one of you.

Like some of you, I lived with the shame of promiscuity, alcohol, and a life based on lies (etc). Moreover, I disassociated from the original cause of my anger and helplessness and found expression in destructive acts against others and myself. I tried to fix everything on my own. I failed.
At the lowest point in my life, I called out to God. He heard me. I'm living proof that it doesn't matter who we were yesterday, what happened to us, or what we did. Here’s the truth despite what the devil says, God wants to do something with our lives today...

The poem “The Chosen Vessel” tells how God picks a vessel to use:

“Take me,” cried the gold one. “I'm shiny and bright,
“I'm of great value and I do things just right."

But God passes by the gold, silver, brass, crystal, and wooden urns, and chooses the vessel of clay. The poem explains why:

Then the Master looked down and saw a vessel of clay.
Empty and broken, it helplessly lay.
No hope had the vessel that the Master might choose,
To cleanse and make whole, to fill and to use.
“Ah! This is the vessel I've been hoping to find,
I will mend and use it and make it all mine.”

Why would God deliberately choose improbable people? I believe it is because he wants to make clear that the power lies in him, not in us. When people observe drastic healing and transformation in our broken lives, their eyes turn toward Him.

Throughout the ages, God continually chose to heal and transform the most improbable candidates. And He never changes. From the beginning, his permanent and everlasting plan was to save us from life’s heartbreaking wounds as well as our own disasters.



The last verse of "The Chosen Vessel" reads:

Then gently He lifted the vessel of clay.
Mended and cleansed it and filled it that day.
Spoke to it kindly, “There's work you must do,
Just pour out to others as I pour into you.”

From personal experience I can tell you with Christ confidence that like the clay vessel, God chose me. He chose me to be set free.....

1. Learn how to accept God’s grace and love regardless of the past.

2. Transform and become what God designed you to be.

3. Discover how to look forward to tomorrow with a healthy attitude.

4. Be mended and set free.

5. Experience your new identity in Christ as a permanent member of his family forever.


"A Broken and Contrite Heart God Will Not Despise..."
Thank you Jesus....


-Aundrea C. Smith

Show Your Wings!!!


Have you ever thought about the life of a butterfly? I mean really thought about the changes that it goes through to become the beautiful creature that we love to see? Well if you haven’t, let me explain to you the things that I have observed about this creature that I completely adore.

Starting out as a caterpillar, the butterfly starts life rough. Crawling around, feeling its way to food, trying to avoid being prey to birds, and on top of that they are UGLY. After ducking and dodging the issues of life a metamorphosis occurs. The caterpillar goes inside a cocoon, defined as the silky covering with which a caterpillar encloses itself during its transition to an adult state. This cocoon protects the caterpillar for an extended period of time from the birds and the elements as it reaches its full potential. After this metamorphosis occurs the caterpillar is now a butterfly. Here’s the kicker, before the butterfly can spread its wings it most struggle to break free from the cocoon, the very thing that has been protecting it! After the struggle, it breaks free and is able to face the obstacles of its life better prepared and stronger. Showing its beautiful wings off to the world.

I know you are now wondering what does this have to do with you, right? The answer is EVERYTHING!!!



We too are like butterflies. When we are lost, our lives mimic the stage of the caterpillar. We crawl around, feeling our way through life, ugly on the inside, until we reach a breaking point when we realize a change is needed. Anything could be the breaking point. Did you lose that significant that said they would be there forever? Did you realize your friends aren’t really your friends? Did you finally realize that blood isn’t always thicker than water? Or did just get tired of partying every night? Whatever the case maybe, you saw that change was needed. You turn to the LORD, he wraps you in your cocoon and your metamorphosis begins.

GOD may send you a role model, give you a bible scripture, find you a new church family, or give you a joyous song to sing. This is you weaving your cocoon. Once inside the cocoon, under his protection, your metamorphosis is in full swing. During this time God is taking away ALL OF THE BAD! He is blocking your from everything! Bills seem to disappear; negative people are no longer a part of your life. During this time you are figuring out your morals and values. Your time in the cocoon is left up to ONLY HIM to decide. For some of us it is weeks, others months or years. However long, change is happening!!!!

Once your metamorphosis is complete, GOD places a struggle in your life to test and see if you can keep your FAITH IN HIM!! Like the butterfly, you must also struggle to be stronger and better prepared to face life’s many obstacles. Once you are free you must SHOW YOUR WINGS!!!!! Be a witness to all the good he has done for you and share your blessings with other!!

By: Ashley Huggans

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up."
~ Bible: Ecclesiastes


Living in a world filled with deceit and betrayal makes it hard for us to trust, therefore making it even harder for us to build friendships. Every time you look up, you see backstabbing unforgivable situations going on around you, or you've probably been through it yourself. I have been through so much when it comes to FRIENDS...HONESTLY, TOO MUCH! If you ask GOD to Reveal, just know...HE WILL! I really believe true friendship is vital and it also says A LOT ABOUT YOURSELF! Life is all about taking risks because nothing is guaranteed to any of us. True friends are difficult to come by and should be cherished. Everyone deserves at least one real friend to turn to whether times are good, bad, or indifferent. The good times are always better with a best friend to share them with, and bad times always seem a little more tolerable when we have a friend to lean on. Life would be terribly dull and lonely without friends, but I do advise all people to select their friends wisely. There are a few qualities that you should look for in a person before you open your heart and your life to them.

LADIES: We need REAL friends...

1. A real friend should always make time to be with you if you're in need. Of course, everyone has many responsibilities in their day to day lives, but when it comes to the big stuff, you have to be able to rely on this person.

2. A friend should be good at keeping secrets. Sometimes, secrets are too much of a burden to keep to ourselves, but we can't trust them to just anyone. A real friend would never betray your trust in them and keep your secrets always.

3. A friend should be sympathetic to your problems and try to help you find solutions. Problems never seem quite so bad if we have someone else to help us with them.

4. A friend should never be judgmental. Everyone is human and we all make mistakes. A friend should try to be understanding of this and not make harsh comments when we're most vulnerable.

5. A friend should support you even when you're wrong. They don't have to agree with what you did, but they should be there to help you through it.

6. A friend would never do anything to intentionally hurt you. We all say things we don't mean from time to time, but a real friend would never go out of their way to make you unhappy or harm you in any way.

7. A friend should never be jealous of you. They should be happy for you any time that something fortunate happens in your life.

8. A real friend will do nice things for you just because. There doesn't have to be a reason other than they just want to see you smile.

9. A real friend will always tell you the truth if there is something that you need to know. Especially something that could hurt you, even if they have been forbidden to tell you. A real friend will always have your well-being as a top priority.

10. A friend should be open, honest, and willing to share all the little details of their life with you, within reason, of course....


The TOP 10 qualities in a REAL friend are: HONESTY, a good listener, Trustworthiness, Respect, Good company, Patience, Forgiveness, Encouragement, Caring and LOVE!

-Aundrea C. Smith

A Cute Poem I Found

Real friends stay true,
Fake friends leave you and abandon you;
They are only there for the good,
They are never there for the bad.

Real friends stay
Even when you have nothing,
Real friends can pull strings
And make miracles happen.

People change through time,
They have the same face
But under it is a screw face;
They will disappear without a trace.

Real friends wait,
Fake friends leave in a quickness;
To have a true friend
Means you are truly blessed.

WHOODINI "Friends"....

Hello World, 1 thing I know we will never be able to AVOID is "RELATIONSHIPS"...I Know you all agree! I still to this day do not know EVERYTHING but I know enough to help another lady with many questions and worries! Honestly, relationships take over our WHOLE LIFE...they become # 1 which eventually puts you LAST---> Which is a BIG PROBLEM! Is it possible to have a healthy relationship and NOT lose yourself? What is a HEALTHY relationship? And what do I mean by "Losing Myself"?? In this blog...I am going to explain from what I have learned throughout my past and present relationships!

Well first, I want to say this...Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. Accept yourself. Respect yourself. Love yourself first. Take good care of yourself. If you really want, you CAN always find something to do that makes you feel good about yourself right now. Love yourself, so pursue your true needs.

Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Your life is ONLY under your control. Keep reminding yourself you are GOOD ENOUGH to have a happy life and a healthy relationship. Make yourself happy, and then share with one another!

We all know about COMMUNICATION right? You can either choose to be right, or you can have a successful relationship. You can't always have both. Most people argue to be "right" about something. They say. "If you loved me, you would..." and argue to hear the other say, "Okay, you're right." If you are generally more interested in being right, this approach will not create a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences.

Make and KEEP clear agreements. Respect the difference between yourself and your partner. Don't expect he or she agrees with you on everything.

Tell the unarguable truth....PLEASE (lol) Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or those of their partner. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. The unarguable truth is about your true feelings...your partner can argue about anything that happens outside of you, but he or she cannot rationally deny your feelings. Here are some examples: "I felt scared when I saw you talking to him at the party," "I feel angry when you hang up on me," and "I felt sad when you walked out during our fight and didn't want to be around me...<<---That's just the the TRUTH, plain and simple! Do you know how much arguing you will AVOID by just telling it how it really is? how you REALLY felt?

Do not do anything for your partner if it comes with an expectation of reciprocation. The things you do for your partner must always be done because you chose to do them and you wanted to do them. Do not hold your “good deeds” over their head at a later time. Keeping score in a relationship will never work...SERIOUSLY! Do you Ladies feel me? :)


Forgive one another. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation. Talk about the issue and try to reach a mutual agreement on how to handle the situation in the future and then commit to it. If you can't reach an agreement, it's a bad sign. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same pattern, it's a good sign. It's the only way to prevent yourself from more disappointment, anger or resentment. Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone, do give him or her the time and space.

ATTENTION: ---> (this is a BIG 1)

Think about your expectations. Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations including acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. Make sure you don't expect your partner to fulfil every need in your life. One person cannot be everything to you....EXCEPT JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF!!! Everybody needs love, intimacy, affection, and affirmation, but your partner cannot alone give you all of that. You need to get some from your friends, from your family, but first and foremost, love yourself. Attempting to change someone else’s mode of processing or personality style won’t work and will create derailments. Ladies, really think about this!

I will continue to type ALL DAY so I will just sum a lot of this up :)

Appreciate your partner, admit your mistakes and say SORRY, spend quality time together NOT ALL of your time, stay honest and PUT GOD FIRST and REMEMBER Approach your relationship as a learning experience. Each one has important information for you to learn. For example, do you often feel 'bossed' around in your relationship, or do you feel powerless? When a relationship is not working, there is usually a familiar way that we feel while in it. We are attracted to the partner with whom we can learn the most, and sometimes the lesson is to let go of a relationship that no longer serves us. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it continues to improve.

Ladies there is nothing wrong with DATING, sometimes we take relationships to FAR! He is NOT our husband so we do not have any control over him...We are NOT married so us playing the "Wife" role is a No-No... Exclusively date, Take your time and DO NOT WASTE TIME...Because YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE!!!!

-Aundrea C. Smith

LET'S FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

According to the American Cancer Society, there are now about 2.5 million breast cancer survivors living in the United States.


The National Breast Cancer Awareness Month (NBCAM) program is dedicated to increasing awareness about the importance of the early detection of breast cancer through a nationwide campaign held in October. NBCAM started as a weeklong campaign in 1985 with 2 founding members. Today the American Cancer Society is one of many national public service organizations, professional associations, and government agencies that form the NBCAM Board of Sponsors. During NBCAM, the member organizations of the Board of Sponsors join forces to spread the message that early detection of breast cancer followed by prompt treatment saves lives.

THIS IS AMAZING:

"Look Good...Feel Better®"

This free, national public service program is sponsored by the American Cancer Society, the Personal Care Products Council (formerly the Cosmetic, Toiletry and Fragrance Association, or CTFA), and the National Cosmetology Association. Look Good…Feel Better® is dedicated to teaching female cancer patients beauty techniques to help restore their appearance and self-image during cancer treatments. Services include two-hour group makeover workshops and one-on-one salon consultations. The program also provides educational materials.


Let's help FIGHT Breast Cancer! :)

Hey world! I really want to speak to you from a dark place that I believe everyone has been before and if not, we surely do know someone who has. ABUSE...Physical, Verbal/Emotional and Sexual Abuse! Have you been abused before? The word abuse means to simply "mistreat". Plain and simple!
1.Physical abuse is can be the easiest of all three types of abuse to spot because the clues can be obvious when someone hits, slaps, beats, burns, kicks, or stabs you. However, there may not be evidence when someone grabs your arm, shakes you, or pushes you around.
2.Sexual abuse is is any form of touching, intercourse, or exploitation of your body. This includes taking pictures you for sexual purposes, asking you to touch someone else's private parts, and making sexual references to your body. Being forced to touch or have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend against your will is sexual abuse---> which is also "RAPE"!
3.Verbal/Emotional abuse is is when someone threatens or humiliates you. This includes calling you names, putting you down, insulting you, or breaking your things. Control is a huge part of emotional abuse and involves chronic anger, jealousy, accusations, and distrust. This type of abuse is the hardest to spot because the injuries aren't physical or immediately visible. Emotional abuse can be mistaken for passionate or intense love.

Now that you have a better understanding a more clear picture of these types of abuse, have you dealt with this? I HAVE! Unfortunately I have been verbally/emotionally abused over & over again. Some women have dealt with all 3! To be mistreated or abused is the worse pain, especially when it comes from the people we love and care for. So how do you deal with the pain In the abusive relationship?...or the pain after the abusive relationship? How do you heal from those wombs? No one deserves abuse nor are they in any way responsible for the way the abuser is treating them. This is what EVE is for, all of us have been through hell and back in many different ways! What I have been through could help YOU and what you have been through can help ME. We are not alone. We need each other! It's possible to start over and be happy. We can do this...WE WILL DO THIS!

I got your back, Aundrea

Catherine N. Smith is a very STRONG and phenomenal woman. She is everything to me. I have never met a woman like her, never will. She is BEAUTIFUL, she is my best friend and also my MOTHER! I get chills sometime's when I fathom the thought of my mother not being here with me or the "what if" she wasn't around thoughts! I really thank GOD for her and all that she has done. Especially this year....Man, this year has been filled with SO MUCH but she has been right there helping me! No matter what mistakes I have made, she has NEVER been ashamed of me...She has continued to love me and teach me. I LOVE HER WITH ALL MY HEART, I really do...She has her own ministry named "Rise My Sister"! Who better than my mother, someone who has been through so much but STILL carrying on to also work with the battered & broken women! She is awesome, amazing and I want to let her know that I TRULY APPRECIATE HER and EVERYTHING SHE HAS DONE FOR ME AND MY LITTLE BROTHER! I Love you Mama...



"Song for Mama" By: Boyz 2 Men...

LUST is demanding,
LUST is cruel,
LUST is often/mostly jealous,
LUST is rude
and is proud of conquests.
It cares NOTHING for other's
and is easily stirred to anger...
LUST is self-centered
It see's what it wants,
Pursue's what it wants,
Take's what it wants...
LUST IS NEVER SATISFIED!

SO, ARE YOU IN LOVE OR LUST...(Think about it)

"What matters's is NOT your outer appearance, the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes but you inner disposition! CULTIVATE YOUR INNER BEAUTY, the gentle, gracious kind that GOD delights in... {1Peter 3:3-5}

CULTIVATE: "to prepare and work on, to improve, to develop"

INNER: "more intimate, private or secret, not obvious, hidden"

DISPOSITION: "state of mind"

..."The Lord does not look at the things man (humans) looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" 1Samuel 16:7

LADIES: Only 10% of our beauty is visible to the eye, 90% of our REAL beauty is hidden on the inside! We as women should be concerned with our inner beauty. STOP trying to please the world and the people in this world with how we look. It makes us feel better to please the world, but that's feeding an insecurity! Become secure within yourself, rest in your satisfaction with yourself, grow & spend time with yourself :) Your confidence will soon build which will cultivate your inner beauty and will be recognized on the outside!

Picture This: Our body is a temple right? So imagine seeing a temple that is BEAUTIFUL on the outside. Everything about it has attracted you to it. Beautiful windows, golden doors and perfectly aligned bricks (lol)...BUT as you walk in, it's a MESS on the inside! Dirt & mud everywhere, horrible smell, mold and dust are attached to everything...etc. I believe no matter how good it looked on the outside, you still would not deal with it! Now Switch that around...beautiful Inside but ugly outside...Hmmm...As long as that inside is Nice, clean & cozy...You would stay! Think about it...

"I AM FEARFULLY & WONDERFULLY MADE..." Psalms 139:14

I AM FULL OF BEAUTY = "Beauty-Full"
I AM FULL OF POWER = "Power-Full"
I AM FULL OF WONDER = "Wonder-Full"
I AM PERFECT FOR MY PURPOSE IN LIFE :)

-Aundrea C. Smith